COUPLES THERAPY
“Love isn’t the work of the tender and the gentle.Love is the work of wrestlers “ - Rumi
Intimate romantic relationships can be very challenging and difficult to navigate and to sustain, especially when we’ve survived emotional neglect, abuse and/or trauma. We carry our wounds from primary relationships with our caregivers into the intimate relationships as adults. This can sometimes create very difficult and unpleasant interpersonal dynamics . We can easily get stuck in these problematic patterns and feel helpless and hopeless about shifting, and about the relationship itself. Conflicts can worsen, become toxic and feel desperately unresolved. We find out that the love isn’t enough to sustain the relationship . Good feelings and the connection we felt at the beginning of the bond can seem irrevocably lost, and we seem unable to stop acting out or enacting unhealthy and dysfunctional dynamics. We know that we need to engage in some deeper, painful and uncomfortable explorations and confrontations.
The client in couples therapy is your relationship itself . I work with you both to enable you to become a team and create a new way of taking care of the relationship that exists between you.
My approach to couples therapy is informed by emotionally focused therapy and psychodynamic therapy. Together we identify the root causes of various dynamics that are at play in the relationship, both consciously and unconsciously. The aim is to understand these projections and enactments , process them, understand their function and to take ownership of them. This can enable a different and a new way of relating to emerge. I work with diverse couples; heterosexual, queer/gay, interracial/intercultural couples , people in both normative as well as non-normative relationship set ups. I also work with couples who are separating and/or divorced and want to work towards a better communication and/or closure or improve their co-parenting relationship. Just like individual Psychotherapy, couples therapy is most effective when attended weekly, on a regular basis.
FEES for couples therapy:
£120 - 60 min
£180 - 90 min